SUITABLE HELP-MEET

“I will make a helper suitable for him” – NIV

“I will make a helper who is just right for him” – NLT

“I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him” - AMP

“I need to make a suitable partner for him” – CEV

Gen. 2:18b

SUITABLE          -      suited to one’s end or purpose

-          consistent with prevailing or accepted standards or circumstances

-          satisfying certain requirements, as for selection

SUITABLE          convenient, fit, tailor-made, useful, right

The more I read and ponder this verse of scripture, the deeper my thoughts run. Could it be God is saying?

Sirs,

“My boy, you’re a great guy. I made you to look exactly like me, and to head certain territories while sojourning on earth. One of those territories is marriage, that’s why I made this (special) someone for you. I made her with you in mind, and I’m giving her to you to help you. She fits your life’s work PERFECTLY (do note that she is not perfect; I intentionally made her so. Her perfection comes from coupling and joining with you). 

She fits you like a piece of puzzle. She knows and accepts your idiosyncrasies, not because she likes them but because I’ve specially made her to tolerate them/you (trust me no other woman will put up with that and still live happily with you).

So son, you can’t just up and get hooked with just any woman; even though I made ALL women.

Back to the point, this woman I made for you will stick with you through thick and thin because she realizes and accepts that you’re in it together. In fact, she’ll be a source of great encouragement to you in those trying times.

This one won’t try to change you. Rather, she’ll accept you just the way you are, getting to understand you in the process, and ask me to help her deal with you (don’t be scared now, I’m talking about those gray areas causing her stress).

Treat her nicely if you want Me to answer your prayers.

All in all, I’m just telling you there’s a daughter of mine TAILOR MADE for you”.

Could it be that God is saying?

‘Mas’,

“My girl, you’re such a darling, the apple of my eyes. You are precious in my sight, so precious I am handing you over to a son of mine. You are his suitable helpmeet.

Let me break it down for you:

You are a natural help-meet  ‘cos I formed you to be a helper, but you’re not a/the right helper for ALL men; even though I made them.

Now, because you are fit for your Adam, you will bring goodness into his life. You are his anchor. Do you know that if you agree with him about anything, I can and will make it happen?

See my dear girl; I’ve given you so much power to use to help my man (your husby). So it depends on how much you are willing to expend on his behalf. I gave you to him to bring progress into his life. You are to respect him ‘cos he’s your king here on earth (but remember I AM your one and only King for life).

My girl, I need you to understand that whatever you say about your husband (good or bad) will happen.

It is because of you he finds favour in my sight. You are a good thing to him, you are to lift him up not bring him down.

You know he’s your head so conduct yourself appropriately and be content ‘cos I don’t want to hear him reporting unbecoming news about you to me. Otherwise, I’ll deal with you, and your husby won’t like it ‘cos it will affect him too.

Elevate your man! Besides Jesus, it is you that I look at sometimes before I bless him. Don’t joke with him. Treat him very well. Give him food (healthy diets). Don’t deny him the niceties of your warmth in the secret places.

This is your job as a TAILOR MADE!

Do these and watch me surprise you (both)”.

P.S – could this really be what God is telling?  Of course these are few thoughts, but I believe so. Whether married or single, if we all went into marriage with this mind-set we’re sure to have a glorious one. Jesus wants to give us the best yet; all we have to do is get and stay connected to him.

Selah!

BL, September 2012

09:21 pm. Saturday, 20

PRAYING FOR U, HUSBY

I know you, I see you, I feel you. Even though we are not yet together, I know you are with me every step of the way because our hearts beat as one.

You are the answer to my ‘groaning in the Spirit’. I didn’t even know I was praying about you till you came. Oh, what a wonder!

You are the one I have been waiting for. Just like Adam saw Eve and he said, yes! This is the one for me, so you set your eyes on me and say, yes! This is the one for me.

You are a blessed man; I see it all over you. You might not be there yet but I know you’ve got a great future ahead, so I’m sticking with ya.

Whenever I think about you, I can’t help but smile. You fill my heart with joy and laughter. You are a gift to me. You make it all seem easy. Life takes a new meaning when you are with me.

When can we be together my love? When can we walk down the aisle holding hands? When can we exchange our vows for ‘for better and for worse’? When can you hold me in your arms, kiss me and tell me sweet nothings? I await that day with patient hope and longing.

I see you hanging shirts in the wardrobe, you turn to look at me with a very funny face and my insides go all mushy.

I see you in the living room, sitting peacefully, watching a movie or programme or reading a book; then you beckon to me to sit with you.

I see you at the dining table, eating my specially prepared dishes for you, you look up, smile at me and tell me it was ‘delicious’ (and you mean it!).

I see you encouraging me to go higher in my pursuit of excellence and all that is of God and all that is good.

I see you in our ‘love room’ waiting for me to come to you, taking it slow and letting me adjust to the sensations you’re creating in me, touching me tenderly, and bringing me to glorious heights I never knew.

I see you blessing me and our children.

I see you…

You are known in the gates when you sit amongst the elders of the land. Your vineyards are blessed; your vats are filled to overflowing.

You are an amazing father, our children are like olive groves round about your table, you bring them up in the right way; they defend you in your old age.

You call me blessed, you tell me I excel all other women, your heart safely trusts in me. You are mine.

You love me with all your heart, you treat me like a queen, you wipe my tears away and put a smile on my face.

You are a compassionate man; you speak for the poor and ill treated, are mindful and respectful of others.

You are a King and priest unto God. You are my covering, my pride is in you.

Yeah, I know you might make me angry sometimes, I can guarantee you that I would. But you must always know that it will never be intentional – please, understand that I’m wearing an uncomfortable suit (flesh) on my real person.

You beat down your enemies as dust, you smite them and they cannot rise up again for God has strengthened you.

Your head does not lack oil. You are anointed of the Lord.

You are my Husband. Yes, I know you are and you know I am.

BL, August 2012

00:56 Am. Friday,24

MAKE A DIFF

Sitting on my couch, actually half sitting and half lying down, the rain begins to fall. That’s when I remember the story of a man who said there should be no rain, and there was none (for three good years). Amazing!

His story had no preamble. I mean, when I was reading about him the book just said he was from so and so place, and he said there should be no rain…but I’m more interested in the fact that the guy spoke and his word held ground. He wasn’t the Messiah or anything, in fact when I read further the book said he was a man of ‘like passions’ – simply put, he was a regular guy; just like you and me. But he made a difference in his lifetime.

Another story comes to mind of a couple of guys from this same book. These guys literally had nothing going for them; nobody in their right senses wanted to associate with them because they were ridden with a dreaded disease.

One day, out of hunger these guys determined to break out from their limitation notwithstanding the huge risk involved. So they made a plan to go into enemy territory to get food, and that was how they saved not only themselves, but a whole nation from seven years of ‘hunger strike’. They decided, they acted, and they impacted. That’s why I could read about them anyway.

Ok, maybe all these seem like big stuff. Read this last one about a woman; the book says she was full of good works, always helping other people, giving alms... now, the book didn’t say she had all the resources in the world o, just that she was a believer.

Then one day she died. Even after they had dressed her for burial they couldn’t let her go. Her death was so painful they couldn’t accept it, fortunately for them they heard that a man who could do miraculous things was in the area. They called on him to bring her back to life, and that he did.

Do you think they would have thought twice about burying the woman if she hadn’t made any difference in their lives? Do you think these guys possessed some special power(s) to be able to do the things they did? Do you have to be super-duper to make a difference in someone’s life? Do you have to be well known to impact your world? (Remember the diseased guys. Ok, I admit they were known for their disease). How do you think the stories would have ended if these folks hadn’t made any difference in their lifetime? Would we have even heard about them?

It is probably that thing you have that you think is not good enough that God wants to use to bless others. Let yourself go for God. Elijah, the four lepers, and Tabitha did. So what’s stopping you?

As for me, I don’t want to stand before God and give Him excuses on why I didn’t impact as many lives as I had opportunity to in my lifetime.

Selah!

BL, August 2012

P.A.S.T

As I’m about to write, I search for words to represent these letters and I got something divine that made me burst out in tongues. Paid And Settled Totally. Halleluyah!

What is it about the word anyway? I mean, why is it that when it is mentioned the thing that first comes to mind is some despicable act? (I admit the thought crosses my mind and I’m seriously praying to eradicate the pattern). I like to think the past generally refers to something old that we do not want to relate with / to anymore. Something we would rather forget and sometimes pretend never happened.

Beloved, we need not pretend it never happened. Whatever is past is past; that means yesterday, gone, unrecoverable, paid IN FULL by our precious saviour. There’s a saying that everyone has a past (not inclusive of babies, I hope). Physically speaking, yes, but I understand from the Word that there are people who have no past, people who are as new born babies – those who are in Christ. You’ve got to believe this because it’s true. Let it sink into your spirit because it’s a spiritual knowledge.

You are only held captive by your thinking the past transcends into your future. Very wrong! Besides, who are you to pay for your transgressions? Have you not seen it in Acts 13:39 that “through Him everyone who believes is justified from everything you could not be justified from…”? You couldn’t possibly save yourself if you tried. Even Jesus who bore the weight of the world’s sin got to a point He felt like passing it over. But we know that didn’t happen. The only wise thing to do is let it go and move on. So long as you’re in Christ, you’re a new person.

It took me years to grasp this truth (though I’m still unravelling it). So I kept making the same mistakes. And that’s what happens to some of us when we don’t believe God’s Word concerning us; we keep going back to vomits (yuck!). He tells us He blots out our transgressions for his own name’s sake.

Ok, if you don’t believe you’re a new person in Christ Jesus, take a look at Mary Magdalene from whom seven demons had come out. How? She encountered Jesus and guess what? She ended up being the first person and woman at that to see the true resurrected Christ. Halleluyah!

I tell you, you can yet make a fabulous history for yourself.

Let’s also consider these women who were not ‘considered’ fit for royalty;

Rahab – the woman of easy virtue. But she did what some of us professing Christians wouldn’t do. She provided a safe haven for God’s people even though they were spies.

Ruth – from Moab aka idolaters. But she obeyed and served, and ended up better than she started.

Bathsheba – some might blame her for having a bath in full glare (thereby making King David stumble and fall hard). But something good came out of her.

Just wait, the most amazing read about these women is this; they were the only three mentioned in the lineage of Christ (besides Mary). Glory to God! Can you just imagine? How do we equate their pasts with their futures? Absolutely impossible! God is fantastic!

Something good came out of these women – Jesus.

Alright, I seem to be gravitating toward women’s matter a lot. There was this terrible King of Judah one time, mean to the core. He practiced witchcraft, divination and the like, even sacrificed his own sons to lifeless gods (you can see there’s nothing new under the sun). This guy was totally debased.

Mr Manasseh is his name. Then God allowed his enemies take him into captivity and his eyes were opened. He remembered God and cried out for mercy, humbled himself, and guess what, again?

This same God forgave him and further re-instated him. Ha! What kind of God is this?

Perhaps you’re in Christ and going through some things you regard as punishment, like King David when he erred, you can rest assured knowing it is all for your good and you can still go before the throne of grace and obtain mercy. One writer puts it this way, “the mercy of God does not eliminate justice, but when He chooses, His mercy could be made to override justice”.

So if you think it’s over for you, think again. If God could forgive these people even when Jesus had not manifested in the flesh, how much more you whom He shed His precious blood for?

Don’t you dare waste His blood.

He says “I, the Lord, invite you to come and talk it over. Your sins are scarlet red, but they will be whiter than snow or wool”.

Selah!

BL, 2010

BREAST MILK OR FORMULA?

So you are now saved, redeemed, delivered, sanctified, and all that. Now what?

You surely can’t remain where you were as a new believer. You need to explore and discover the hidden treasures stored up for you. Where do you begin to search for it? In the Word! The NIV in 1 Peter 2:2 says “as new born babies crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation. The operative being crave.

This brings to mind a dear friend who recently had a baby. The baby was so tiny but after a couple of week, the difference was obvious.

What was she fed? Milk, and not just any milk, but breast milk. Reports say there are ingredients specially formulated in the breast milk for a baby in its first six months that cannot be found in any other milk. In fact, as the baby grows, the milk is infused monthly with ingredients to better suit the child’s development. Awesome stuff here!

You should also note that the baby actually cries / asks for the milk before being given. The baby is desperate for the milk, and as much as the baby is given, you could often tell the difference between a breast fed baby and a formula fed baby at the end of six months.

Now this is just a physical illustration of the spiritual process of being fed and nourished by God’s word. The scripture says desire it – when you desire something you usually would go out of your way to get it, even if it’s just a ‘feel’ of it.  Crave the Word, long for it, be obsessed with it, and cry for it till you feed to your satisfaction.

But you might say, what if the baby was fed on formula and actually ‘looks’ healthy? Well, the long run will tell. So it is with you. Are you satisfied with chewing the cud from the pastor? How can you overcome that besetting sin without a befitting scripture? How will you engage in spiritual warfare without being wounded if you don’t have the sword of the Spirit; which is the Word of God?

Just say one word from scripture you would tell the enemy when he comes telling you that this whole Jesus story is a farce, and you’re a fool to believe (in) Him. You see, the sincere milk of the Word is an indispensable part of your life, it is the breast milk your Spirit needs to grow, it will never lead you astray.

I challenge you to long for it. You can never be overfed with it nor get constipated. It digests as easily as you chew (you can actually chew this milk because it comes in solid form).

Maybe, like me, you find it overwhelming to take in so much of God’s sweet Word. Then by all means chew slowly. One verse of scripture a day is just about what you need to become a walking talking Bible overtime.

Who can tell you about God better than God Himself?

Selah!

BL, July 2010